I am one of those incredibly blessed men who is married to a very godly woman. I see Jesus in her in so many ways, every single day of our lives together.
When Peter wrote of the attributes that a woman who is seeking to follow Jesus should have, he referred to the women of the Old Testament who exhibited these wonderful character traits in all their behavior.
1 Peter 3:1-6 “Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. Do not let your adornment be merely outwardâ€”arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparelâ€”rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.”
Notice the context of Peter’s instructions here. The topic is not a woman submission to her husband, that is the subtopic. The object of Peter’s encouragement to a woman is towards the bad or incorrect behavior of her husband.
Many times a man, or as in the case here in these verses, a married man. Often we can be less than God has called us to be. Men are naturally more abrasive and rough in their words and behavior than that of a woman. Men stray often from the godly walk that they should be displaying to their wife, children, friends and co-workers. Men find it difficult from time to time to stay in the Word and to spend quality time with the Lord from where they can draw their spiritual strength.